Shaykh Mehmet Adil Al-Haqqani, Sohbet of the 11th of April, 2018.
As-Salāmu ‘alaykum wa raḥmatu Llāhi wa barakātuh.
A‘ūdhu biLlāhi mina sh-shayṭāni r- rajīm. Bismi Llāhi r-Raḥmāni r-Raḥīm. Aṣ-ṣalātu wa s-Salāmu ‘alá Rasūlinā Muḥammadin Sayyidi l-awwalīn wa l-ākhirīn. Madad yā Rasūla Llāh, madad yā Sādāti Aṣḥābi Rasūli Llāh, madad yā Mashāyikhinā, dastūr yā Shaykh ‘Abdu Llāh al-Fā’iz ad-Dāghistānī, Shaykh Muḥammad Nāẓim al-Ḥaqqānī. Madad.
Ṭarīqatunā ṣ-ṣuḥbah wa l-khayru fi l-jam‘iyyah.
A‘ūdhu biLlāhi mina sh-shayṭāni r-rajīm. Bismi Llāhi r-Raḥmāni r-Raḥīm. “Wa mā ubarri’u nafsī inna n-nafsa la-ammāratun bil-sū’i illā mā raḥima rabbī inna rabbī ghafūrun raḥīm” (12:53). This āyah is the āyah mentioned in Sūratu l-Yūsuf in Qur’ān. It says, “I am not saying my ego is good. The ego orders evil. And Allāh جل جلاله is forgiving. The forgiver is Allāh جل جلاله . The ego of a person always orders evil. If you follow the ego, it will never order anything “. good. You shouldn’t follow after it. You should lead it wherever you like.
People nowadays, when something happens, they immediately defend themselves and say, “I didn’t do anything but right.” People don’t accept any fault. There is always an ego in a person. It makes mistakes and does wrong. Therefore, Allāh ‘Azza wa Jalla is showing in Qur’ān, we should be careful. If we make a mistake, we recognize. If we make it towards people, we have to say sorry and show our regret by saying, “We did this wrong to you. Excuse us please.” People nowadays do the opposite by saying, “I didn’t do it. It’s your fault. It’s your mistake. You have to ask forgiveness from me.” People are teaching this in their families too. And their families grow up with these teachings since childhood. They think they are perfect their whole lives. All mistakes and faults belong to others. They don’t accept any fault. And it is not a nice thing. They take people’s rights on their shoulders. In some cases, they take away due rights. If they oppress people, they commit a sin.
Our ego is bad. People should know that. They should judge themselves then. Judge yourself before going to ākhirah. Ask yourself: “Is what I did right or wrong?” If it’s wrong, it is good to ask forgiveness from that person, not leaving it to ākhirah. That person will be happy too. And the hate between you will end. Otherwise, if you are wrong and claim the other side is wrong, you commit a sin then. And the other side will have enmity against you. Love will disappear between you and it will be bad. Therefore, as we said, we should educate our ego. We have to get good manners with Islām. We should learn from the beautiful manners of our Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم
Because our Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم… a day came in his last days when he صلى الله عليه وسلم said: “If I did any wrong to you, tell me so that I صلى الله عليه وسلم can pay it back to you.” One of the ṣaḥābah said: “I think you pushed me on my back. I want to push you صلى الله عليه وسلم too.” All the ṣaḥābah were surprised at this. When our Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم opened his back, the ṣaḥābah kissed it. He said, “I wanted to do this.”
Can you imagine? The great Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم, the most merciful of people, is showing us this to teach us a lesson even though he never caused any hardship to anyone in order for it to be an example to people until Qiyāmah. It is not a shame to ask forgiveness. It is a virtue to accept one’s fault. People look with respect at such people.
May Allāh جل جلاله give us those attributes, in shā’a Llāh.
Bismi Llāhi r-Raḥmāni r-Raḥīm “Wa mā ubarri’u nafsī inna n-nafsa la-ammāratun bil-sū’i illā mā raḥima rabbī inna rabbī ghafūrun raḥīm” (12:53). This is āyah verses from Qur’ān, from Yūsuf, Sūratu Yūsuf, saying I’m not saying my ego – I cannot make my ego pure, no any bad from this. No. My ego it is ordering bad thing but Allāh ‘Azza wa Jalla He جل جلاله is forgiving us, He جل جلاله is merciful for us. Allāh جل جلاله create this ego as it is not good but it is useful. You follow it, never take you to good thing. Never ego… If you say, “I will follow this ego maybe sometimes can take me to good thing.” Never. As much you following your ego, you are going to bad thing from worse to worse. Never coming. But ego it must follow you. You take your ego to good place, higher place. To good thing, to do good thing you must take it after you, not you follow it.
Ego must follow you and this is for teaching us the… to be accept we are doing mistake, we are doing wrong thing, we are sometimes make trouble. Everything we can do. We are not perfect. Only perfect – Prophets. They not do any wrong thing, any sin. But we do sin, we do mistake, we do wrong thing. Human being can do this. This is normal for human being. But you must know it is. When you do this, after if you recognise – “Oh I do bad thing. I apologize from what I do, what I done for people, for anybody, for Allāh ‘Azza wa Jalla.” We apologize. Don’t say I’m right. Because nowadays, people, everybody wrong except themself; not accepting any mistake. They are perfect. They are not doing bad thing and this is the first bad thing they are thinking. This also the most wrong thing they are… Okay you can do wrong thing but you must say, “Oh I have this bad ego, she do again this bad thing.” So we must apologize. Don’t say, “I’m right, I’m – they must come for me.” No.
You must just judge yourself before big Judgement Day. In that in one second, one minute you can find, make, look and without any… You must be straight. Don’t take your ego’s side. If what you done it is wrong. It is good and Allāh جل جلاله will be happy with you if you say to what you done, you make it right again. If you take something wrong you can give. If you make some wrong action, you can ask apologize from this people. So you will be beloved and respected in among the human being. But if you are all time not accepting truth and every time you say, “I’m right, I’m right,” you be not respect in among people and people they will be run away from you. This here and in ākhirah also Allāh جل جلاله will punish you because you do something for people. And in ākhirah also this people if they not forgive you, you will be more difficult for you.
But, al-ḥamdu liLlāh, Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم showing us with this, the most perfect one. Before he, صلى الله عليه وسلم going changing his world was once he صلى الله عليه وسلم said for ṣaḥābah: “Oh if anybody have anything from me صلى الله عليه وسلم I have done something for people, you have, you want something from me without I knowing I done. Ask and I will give you.” One of ṣaḥābah he said, “Once you make like this for me, hit me little bit. I like to take revenge.” And “okay” said Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم. Ṣaḥābah was very surprised. “What is this not good behave one? How he can say this for Prophet .صلى الله عليه وسلم And Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said, “Stop. He is right. Okay come.” And he صلى الله عليه وسلم open his back and this ṣaḥābah kiss him صلى الله عليه وسلم from there. Said only “I want to do this.” So this is lesson until Qiyāmah for ummah, how Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم sensitive for people and how we are acting not accepting any wrong thing we are do. We are only do good thing.
So this is very important to judge ourself quickly. If you are right, okay no need to apologize but if they are that one right, you must apologize quickly and to be happy. He will be happy with you and you will be more comfort because you done you your ego down and you are powerful against your ego. The most powerful one who can control his ego. Allāh جل جلاله help us to do this, to be take from Prophet’s صلى الله عليه وسلم attribute, in shā’a Llāh.
Wa min Allāhi t-tawfīq, al-Fātiḥah.