Shaadi aur Bacche Ders 35

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بِسْمِ اللَّه الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم
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2022/12/07, Ders 35, Bachho ke apnay Walidain par Huqooq
Fehrist:
★ Hadees : “Kullukum ra’in..”
★ Bachho ke apnay Walidain par 3 Huqooq:

  • Unhay ek khoobsurat naam dena
  • Unki munaasib tarbiyat karna
  • Ek achhay shareek-e hayat ki talaash mein unki madad karna
    ★ Hadees: “Khawateen se nikah ke liye pucha jata hain kyunki..”
    Bismillahi Ar-Rahman Ar-Rahim. Tariqatuna as-sohba wal khayru fil jam’iyya. Madad Ya Sayyidi Ya Rasul Allah, wa
    Mashayikhina Sheikh Nazim Adil Al-Haqqani, Sheikh Muhammad Ar-Rabbani.
    Aaj Insha Allah, hum baat kar rahay hain bachho ke unkay walidain par huqooq ke baray mein. Bismillahi Ar-Rahman ArRahim. Rasool’Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم farmatein hain: “Kullukum ra’in wa kullukum mas’oolun ‘an ra’iyyatihi – “كُلُّكُمْ رَاعٍ، وَكُلُّكُمْ مَسْؤولٌ عَنْ رَعِيَّتِهِ” ke tum sab charwahay ki tarha ho aur har charwaha unkay liye zimmedaar hain jinki woh dekhbhal karta hain, [uskay maweshi/bhed]. Lehaaza, walidain bhi apnay bachho ke liye zimmedaar hain. Woh hamesha aap ko walidain ke haqooq batatay rehtay hain. Haan, walidain ke huqooq aulaad ke walidain par huqooq sey kahi zyada badkey hain. Lekin hamaray yahan ek waqia pesh aya hai aur phir mainey socha ke mujhe iss mauzu par baat karni chahiye, bachho ke walidain par haqooq ke baray mein.
    Teen huqooq hain jo har ek bachhay ke uskay walidain par hotay hain. Yeh laazmi hain. Pehla haq yeh hai ke bachhay ko ek khoobsurat naam diya jayein. Aaj kal, bahot saaray log aisay shaukeen naam detay hain jinka koi matlab nahi hota, unka koi maiena nahi hota, sirf iss wajah se ke woh sunney mein achha lagta hain ya rakhnay mein achha lagta hain, ya fir woh kisi funkar ke naam par hain, ya kisi adakar, adakara, fuzool naamo par.
  • Yeh hamari purani riwayat hai, khaas taur par musalman honay ke lehaaz se, ke hum apnay dada-dadi/nana-nani ka naam detay hain, ya Saliheen/ naik logo ka naam detay hain, Huzoor صلى الله عليه وسلم ke naam detay hain, mashhoor Anbiya’o ya Sahaba-e kiram ke naam detay hain, khawateen aur mard. Sabhi ke liye, ek khoobsurat naam dena hain. Subhan Allah, baaz auqaat qayamat ke din agar iss shakhs ko jannat mein janey ka koi deegar mauqa nah miley sirf unkay naam ke ilawa. Agar sirf uss ka naam kisi Saliheen ya kisi Nabi se mutaliq ho to unn ke naam ki wajah se uski shafa’at ho sakti hai. Allah unn par reham karta hain, unhein unkay naam ki wajah se jahannam mein nahi bhejega. Lehaaza jab apnay bachho ke naam rakh rahay ho to kisi muqaddas hasti ya kisi saleh, naik shakh se mutaliq koi khoobsurat naam muntakhib karey. Toh, yeh aulaad ka pehla haq hai uskay walidain par : unhein ek umda, achha naam dena.
    Doosra haq aulaad ka walidain par yeh hai ke walidain unki munasib tarbiyat karein, inhein apna deen seekhiye aur husn-e sulooq, adab, husn-e ikhlaq seekhayein. Unki sabr ke sath tarbiyat karein, unhey zindagi ki mushkilaat ko sambhalney ka tarika sikhayein. Aisa nah ho ke aap apnay bachho ko woh sab kuch detey jayein joh bhi kuch woh farmaish kartein hain. Aap ko unhein sikhana hoga ke sabr kaisay karna hai, kaisay raha jayein qanou’ قنوع , unkey paas joh kuch hai usmein raazi rehna.
    Yahan tak ke agar aap ke paas unhein sab kuch deney ki haisiyat bhi hain, to aapko unke liye usay haasil karna thoda mushkil banana hoga ya iss tarah karein ke woh usay aasani se na paa sakay. Yeh bahot hi ahem hai. Aur unhein apna deen seekhayein, unhein Allah se mohabbat karna, Rasool Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم se mohabbat karna, apnay aas-paas maujood
    muqaddas logo se mohabbat karna seekhayein. Yeh bhi zaroori hai. Iss ke ilawa unhein khanay ke achay aadaab sikhana, salaam karna, libaas pehenna wagairah … bhi.


    Libaas/ Pehnawa bahot zaroori hai, ladkiyo aur ladko ke liye. Mawlana Sheikh Nazim ne mere bachho ka chhotay payjamay, mukhtasir patloon pehanna kabhi manzoor nahi kiya- aur mere toh sirf ladkay hai, ladkiya nahi hai. Unki patloon ghutno ke neechay tak chahiye thi. Aur yahan tak ke jab woh chhoti baazu wali kameez bhi pehentay thay, unhonay isay bhi kabhi pasand nahi kiya, woh hamesha chahtay ke yeh lambi baazu wali kameez pehna karein. Ladko ke liye bhi aur ladkiyo ke liye bhi. Ladkiyo ke liye yeh aur bhi zyada zaroori hain ke hum apnay bachho ko bachpan se hi ha’iy/ haya, shaista hona aur khud ko dhanpna/parda karna sikhayein. Jab hum chhotay thay to hamaray paas kabhi baghair aasteen ke kapday nahi hotay thay, yahan tak ke kameez bhi humaray paas hoti woh koniyo se aagey hoti thi.
    Islam mein aisa hi hai. Aap ko yeh yaqeeni banana hoga ke ladkiya aur ladke be-libaas/ be-haya hona nah seekhein. Aaj kal to fashion/daur-e chalan mein itna zyada hai, khabaro mein, TV par, har jagah woh be-libaasi ko ek qaiday ki tarha, mamool ke mutabiq pesh kartay hain. Yeh mamool ke mutabiq nahi hai. Musalman honay ke lehaaz se, hamein apnay aapko, apnay bachho ko Islam ki hudood mein rakhna hai. Ladkiyo ke liye, mein dekhti hu ke woh lambay libaas pehentay hain lekin uske neechay koi payjama nahi hota. Chhoti ladkiya yeh samajh nahi paati lekin yeh zimmedaari unkay bado ki hain. Aur ladko ke liye bhi chahiye ke woh apnay libaaz ke andar lambi patloon ya pyjama pehney. Yeh bahot zaroori hai khaas taur par ladkiyo ke liye. Woh kehte hain ke yeh baday honay par mamool ke mutabiq kapday pehen lengay : yeh nahi pehnenge! Aap apnay bachhay ko jab woh chhota hota hai tab joh kuch bhi sikhatey hain, phir woh usi ke sath bada hota hai. Lehaaza, pehnawa bahot ahem hai. Unka sir dhanpna, yeh ek alag mauzo hai. Lekin inhein bachpan se hi aisay kapday pehenna seekhayein jisse unka jism dhanpa rahay. Yeh ek Islami taleem hai aur aap iss ke liye zimmedaar hain.
    Unkay dosto par bhi dhyan dey, ke woh achay dost hain, ya buray dost hain. Apnay bachho ko bahar mat rehnay dey, ’woh apnay dosto ke sath janey ke khwaishmand hain, apnay dosto ke sath rehne ko keh rahay hain’. Nahi, iss waqt-ezamaane mein nahi, yeh waqt bahot hi kharab hai, Subhan Allah. Yeh bahot hi bura waqt chal raha hai, shaytan jawaano par zyada kaam kar raha hai, bado se zyada. Inhen apnay dosto ke sath nahi rehne diya jayein ya baher der tak nahi rehne diya jayein. Bahot saaray buray dost hotay hain. Mainay bahot walidain ko rotay hue bahot saari kahaniyaa bayaan kartay suna hai ke kaisay unkay bachhay gaumrah hogaye hain, nasha karnay lagay hai, sharaab peena, buray kaam karna seekh rahay hain. Aur phir zyada pareshaniya pesh aati hain, unn mein se kuch to qaid-khanay/jail bhi jatay hain.
    Lehaaza, aapko apnay bachho ko ghar mein waqt guzarna sikhana hoga. Haan, ho sakta hai ke woh apnay dosto ke sath 1-2 ghantay ke liye jayein lekin unhay shaam honay se pehlay ghar wapas aana hoga. Ladke aur ladkiya. Aap ko unhein sikhana hoga ke unka ghar unke liye sab se mehfooz jagah hai aur yeh unke liye behtareen jagah hai. Unke dost ban’nay ki koshish karein. Unhein Islam ke baray mein achhay ikhlaq, apnay bartao, mohabbat aur pyar ke sath sikhaayein. Hajjah Anne hamari dost hoti thi jab hum chhotey thay, Main aur Haji Baha’uddin – Sheikh Mehmet aur Hajjah Naziha hum se baday thay – lekin mujhe hamesha meri walida har shaam yaad aati hain, unke paas ek kitaab hoti thi aur hum unke dono taraf baithay hotay thay. Woh hamaray liye kahaaniya padti thi, kabhi Anbia’o صلى الله عليه وسلم ki kahaniyaan, kabhi Saliheen ki, kabhi woh aam kahaniyaan bhi padti thi. Woh hamesha hamaari dost thi. Hum Haji
    Baha’uddin sath dost thay lekin meri walida bhi dost thi kyunkay Mawlana Sheikh zyada tar waqt safar karte thay.
    Isiliye apnay bachho ke sath dosti karne ki koshish karein. Aur hum unke liye dua’goh hain ke woh kabhi gumrah nah ho kyunkay bataur walidain unhein padhaana hum par yeh unka ek haq hai. Kyunkay Roz-e-mehshar, humse iss baray mein poocha jayega. Agar yeh bachha gumrah hogaya hai, ya achha sulooq nahi karta aur usay sazaa mukarrar hoti hai, toh walidain se bhi poocha jayega ke ‘aap ne inhein yeh ya woh kyun nahi bataya?’. Agar aap ne yeh sab kiya tha lekin yeh bachhay ka muqaddar tha ke woh rastay se hatt jayein – La sama Allah , Allah aisa honay se rokay – to kam az kam, aap ne apna farz adaa kar diya hai. Insha Allah aisa nahi hoga, lekin hamein iss ke sath apna farz adaa karna hoga.
    Insha Allah hum dua karte hain ke hamaray tamaam bachhay haq ke rastay par rahey, Ummat Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم ke tamaam farzand, ladkiyan, ladke, Allah unko raah-e raas par rakhein aur hum unko shaytan ke hatho zaya na honay dey Insha Allah. Aur Allah unn sab ko Mahdi alayhi salam ke sath rakhein. Insha Allah, mein dua’goh hu apnay bachho ke liye aur aap ke tamaam ke bachho ke liye.
    Teesra haq jo bachhay ka uskay walidain par hota hai ke woh talaash karein koi achha jod kisi achhay ke sath- aaj kal woh isay partner (jodi-daar) kehte hain – shauhar ya biwi, ek aisa shareek-e hayaat joh unke liye munasib rahey, ek mazhabi.
    Ek aadmi ne Rasool Allah صلى الله عليه وسلمke paas aakar pucha : ‘Main nikah ka khwaishmand hu, mujhe kisse nikah karna chahiye?’.
    Rasool Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم farmatey hain: ‘Khawateen se nikah ke liye pucha jata hai unki khoobsurti, unki daulat, unkay khandan aur unkay deen ke wajah se. Usay muntakhib karo joh deen par hai, joh mazhabi ho aur deen ki pairwi karti ho.’


    Aur, mardo ke liye. Jab kisi khatoon ko nikah ke liye pucha jayein, toh usay yeh dekhna chahiye ke kya woh namaaz padtay hain, mazhabi hain, Allah se dartay hai?. Joh shakhs Allah se darta ho, jis ke dil mein Allah ki mohabbat ho, woh usay nuksan nahi pahoncha sakta. Allah ke khauf se woh uskay huqooq adaa karega- – ‘Yacaqillahu fiha’. Woh kuch bhi karne se pehlay Allah ka khayaal karega. Aur khawateen bhi, khawateen mazhabi baney kyunkay aap bunyadi sutoon hain anay wali naslon ki tarbiyat karne ke liye, unhein deen sikahnay, unhein achha insaan bananay, achhi insaaniyat ke liye.
    Insha Allah, Allah hum sab ko apnay bachho ke huqooq adaa karne ki koshish karne ki taufeeq ataa farmayein, achhay tareeqay se aur Islaami tareeqay se, Insha Allah. Aur mein dua karti hu aap sab ke liye aur mere liye, Allah maghfirat farmaye aur hum sabko haq pe banayein rakhey Insha Allah.
    Wa min Allahi at-tawfeeq
    Fatiha