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Hazrat Shaykh Muhammad Mehmet ar-Rabbani 10 March 2018/22 Jumadal Akhir 1439
Sabah Namaz, Akbaba Dargah
Assalamu Alaykum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuh
Auzu Billahi Minashaytanir Rajeem. Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem,
Wassalatu Wassalamu ala Rasulina Muhammadin Sayyidul Awwalin wal Akhirin, Madad Ya Rasulallah, Madad Ya As’habi RasuLillah, Madad Ya Mashayikhina, Sheykh Abdullah Daghestani, Sheykh Nazim al-Haqqani. Dastur.
Tariqatunas sohba, wal khayru fil jamiyya
May Allah be happy with you all. Thank you for attending this occasion. You came all the way for the sake of Allah. “Allah gives a reward for each step,” says our Holy Prophet (SAW). If a person sets on a trip to visit his Muslim brother, Allah writes a reward, forgives a sin, and raises him by a station for each step. You came from quite a distance Mashallah. May Allah be happy with all of you. Thank you.
Thank Allah this has become an occasion. Marriage is an important institution in Islamic practice. It is the first institution and it is a necessity. Our Holy Prophet (SAW) says, “Marriage is half the religion.” Because marriage is needed for a good nation (ummat). Shaitan does not like this institution and does everything in his hands to demolish it. A Muslim need to choose a good person so one can live a good life for a lifetime, protect one’s religion, and protect oneself. What is more important than that is for good generations to continue.
Good generations benefit the parents first, then it benefits the Muslims, then it benefits the whole of mankind. The good Muslim is not only beneficial to Muslims but to the whole of humanity. But when they are bad, Allah forbid, they are harmful to everyone. They are firstly harmful to their parents, then to Muslims, then they are harmful to all people. Therefore, people need to be careful when they are getting married. Our Holy Prophet (SAW) has a hadith on the subject of choosing the woman to marry, “Marriage is for four things: for her beauty, for her lineage meaning her family, for her wealth, and for her religion meaning with the religious one. Chose the fourth from among these four,” says our Holy Prophet (SAW).
Chose the religious one. When they are religious, they are benign and they do not have an attitude. And the most important matter in marriage is getting along well. Why fight every day when you can get along? There is no need. Of course sometimes you have a quarrel and you cannot have it without an argument. Because mankind cannot match each other a hundred percent. That is why minor things can occur. There is no person that can get along without anything happening. These things happen and we cannot say they do not. Both sides need to manage each other and get along.
May Allah grant the Nation of Muhammad good generations and may the single have good marriages Inshallah. Now there are some persons who say not to get married so others can serve themselves and Islam. He does not let people who want to get married to get married, or he does not let married couple get along well with each other. What they do does not fit the sunna. A few people can be an exception, but telling the people who follow themselves, “Do not marry. Serve Islam,” is not alright. Serving Islam is getting married first. If people get fooled by him, they will not get married for years and in the end will either fall in sin or the generation will not be good.
As we said, marriage is Allah’s (JJ) command and the Prophet’s (SAW) sunna. Our Holy Prophet (SAW) says, “Those who can get married should get married, and those who cannot get married should fast to keep hold of their ego.” Therefore, marriage is the command of Allah. The person who tells everybody not to get married is falling outside of the sunna, Allah forbid. May Allah make it easy on all of us to follow the sunna Inshallah.
Wa Minallah at-Tawfeeq. Al-Fatiha.